“It Is What It Is”

“Your success will be determined by your own confidence and fortitude.” — Michelle Obama

One of the hardest things that I had to learn on this journey is that everybody you know won’t support you. Some may only see the old version of you in their minds and they don’t think you’re capable of changing the game. Some may not see the hard work that you put in when nobody’s looking or they flat out just want to see you fail. The envy can come from afar and it can also come from the people that are extremely close. But the key to remember is, it is what it is.

As the legend Pat Summit put it, “It is what it is. But it will be what you make it.” Meaning that the support may not be there, but it is what it is. It’s your job to power through and keep going. It could be walking away from a situation that you know you don’t need to be in. You know what’s done is done but now you have more motivation to be relentless in chasing down the life you want to live.

Again, we choose how to respond to the adversities that life throws our way. We can either choose to complain about what’s not happening or we can take the lead and use it all as fuel to push us towards our dreams. To have an optimistic mindset through trials and tribulations is no easy task but when we understand the true power of our minds, we will be able to pick and choose where our energy gets spent.

That’s why I’m constantly harping on letting go of the past. A lot of the bad memories we replay in our minds have negative emotions attached to them. We remember the times when we first started pursuing our higher purpose and doors that we thought would be open, closed. Life situations have been rocky and when you needed love and encouragement, you were met with poor attitude, inconsistency & people failing to see you as you are. It’s very unfortunate that it happens but guess what? If it was supposed to be another way, it would. But since it’s not, we have to learn not to take it personal.

People only see from their perspective. Especially, if they haven’t been through the things, you go through. But as the wise men say, “God didn’t give them your vision, so they aren’t going to see what you see”. The company you keep isn’t supposed to see the “why”. They aren’t supposed to know the “how”. They should have 100% trust in us and match our level of belief. If they don’t, then it is what it is. Is it unfortunate? yes. Does it hurt? Yes. Should we keep it moving forward with or without their support? You, betcha. We shouldn’t let the pessimistic opinions of those who can’t / don’t want to have faith in us phase the process.

If you haven’t done so already, today is the day that we increase the foot to neck ratio. For years, we have downplayed who we are and the gifts we possess. For years we have allowed the lack of support drive us off the path that we are on. Starting right now, in this moment, don’t worry about support or the lack thereof. Enjoy the moment. Take this moment of being the underdog and channel all that frustration into an unstoppable work ethic. Take the hurt you feel and channel it into increasing your vibrational frequency.

Anybody that doesn’t support you or believe in your growth is doing you a favor. When we ask for clarity, true colors will always be revealed. One thing I learned the hard way, is don’t let someone tell you they don’t need you, want you, love you or support you more than once. That is their bag fumbled not yours. Most people give up because of the length of the journey. But people like you and I gain strength from the journey. No more fumbling the bag because of support. Keep running your race. You will have the last laugh and just like they said to you, “it is what it is.”

• SB