“Sometimes, Holding On Does More Damage Than Letting Go”
One of my favorite analogies of all time, came from a youth meeting that I attended at my church (yes, I went to church) a few years back. After observing it’s truth in my own life, I’ve attempted to share it with as many people as I can.
‘When a space shuttle is exiting our atmosphere, heading towards the moon, it has individual rocket boosters that are designed to make it to a certain height. Once it’s purpose has been served, it detaches and falls off. Now imagine if the rocket boosters never fall off. The shuttle would not make it to the moon because it’s carrying the dead weight of the boosters. Our life is the space shuttle. Our dream or life we aspire to acquire is the moon. The dead weight could be a list of people, scenarios and places keeping you away from your destiny.’
Ever since then, I’ve monitored my life, applied this analogy and it’s worked for the better. I’ve found the dead ends in my life, I removed them and small victories are constantly coming my way that would have never happened had I never removed that energy from my life.
As we grow up in life, we manage to link up with different people from all walks of life. We catch vibes from the people we click with and deflect those we don’t. But sometimes life throws you a curve ball and forces your hand by making you remove someone close to you.
Whether it’s a spoiled friendship or companionship that’s lost it’s flame you either A, tolerate the bullshit and continue to block your blessings or B. Cut off the finger to save the hand. It’s a harsh way to look at it, but in all honesty, life is too short to have bad energy around you. Because like positivity, negative vibes are contagious and no one likes a negative Nancy.
But on the flip side of eliminating excess weight from your life, separation doesn’t always have to be associated with negative connotations. Sometimes we need time apart from each other to sort out our personal life and prioritize. Sometimes we need to be single so we can figure out the direction we want our lives to go in. Sometimes our absence will make people appreciate our presence and if they knew what was right for them, they will tailor their actions accordingly.
At the end of the day, separation equals elevation which equals growth. It’s okay to remove yourself from toxic relationships. It’s okay to leave him/her because they don’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It’s okay to leave your job because it doesn’t align with your life’s purpose. It’s okay to remove drama from your life. It’s completely okay to stand as an individual and be in your own lane. It’s okay to (unapologetically) be the person you want to be.
So today, as you read this article, think about your life and the people you are associated with. Are you helping each other or hurting each other? Is he/she holding you back or are you staying there in fear of being alone? Are they contributing to your happiness or are they depriving you from it?
Examine your circle, create a game plan for your life and always be careful when you ask God to remove the people that aren’t for you like you are for them. Because sometimes, the answer you get isn’t the answer you were looking for.
